Making yourself happy!

We use word 'happy', 'hapiness', 'being happy', 'making others happy' and so on but what is happiness exactly. This is what Google answers :

hap·py/ˈhapē/

Adjective:	Feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. Having a sense of confidence in or satisfaction with (a person, arrangement, or situation).
Synonyms:	glad - fortunate - joyful - lucky - merry - cheerful

''I do not have any big reservations but seeing my
 family smiling is what makes me most happy .''

And this is what oxford dictionary says:

 Definition of happy

adjective (happier, happiest)

• 1feeling or showing pleasure or contentment:Melissa came in looking happy and excited[with clause]:we’re just happy that he’s still alive[with infinitive]:they are happy to see me doing well
• (happy about) having a sense of trust and confidence in (a person, arrangement, or situation):he was not happy about the proposals
• (happy with) satisfied with the quality or standard of:I’m happy with his performance
• [with infinitive] willing to do something:we will be happy to advise you
• [attributive] used in greetings:happy Christmas

• 2 [attributive] fortunate and convenient:he had the happy knack of making people like him

3 [in combination] informal inclined to use a specified thing excessively or at random:they tended to be grenade-happy
Well whatever it is, it simply means being that one is content, satisfied or have no complains. I have been trying to be happy ever since I was born I guess. Everyone in this world needs happiness to be able to survive. It is a feeling which is neither seen nor disappear, neither bought nor sold, neither weighed nor compared.  
Lately, I was wondering what are the things that can make people happy, not materialistic happiness. Anyone could be happy if they get iphone 5 or Apple Mac or Samsung Galaxy or ipad3 or win lottery right now. I am talking about non-materialistic happiness which can make you happy and won't even cost a penny. Is there anything like that? Is there any solution or any idea or any form of happiness which can make you happy? I was trying to reassure my sister of being happy but to come up with 'how to be happy' ideas are arguably difficult. The things that can make me happy might not make others happy. For example, I love to travel, I love sight-seeing and most of all I love meeting new people but same thing does not apply to everybody. May be people hate jet lags, hate travel sickness or hate interacting with new people. Long time ago I watched a program in telly which was saying 'growing a plant can make you happy'. Well, to some extent that is true, I do enjoy growing a plant in my house. It is amazing how a tiny seed can grow into a big plant and also produce fruits, flowers and seeds again. It feels like giving birth but no pain involve hehe. 
Happiness is like mirage that we go after but does it exist in the horizon? We should try to find happiness within us. The inner happiness we achieve is far valuable and precious. Honestly speaking simple things can make you happy. For me, simple things like solving a maths solution, cleaning a garden, cleaning my room, talking to my parents and friends, listening to others, blogging, tweeting, instagraming, dancing, singing, evening walk, cooking, doing somebody's hair, decorating, youtubing, facebooking, watching movies, etc does make me happy. Happiness for me is always temporary, it is there but not for infinity. I still wish that temporary happiness could supply me with permanent will power, strength and willingness to survive. Sometimes people spend whole life to find that seconds of happiness. Most of the time people don't even know how happy they are and they still looking for it. 
Anyways, here are things that might help you to find happiness or atleast know those things that makes you happy.

• think of something which makes you laugh or smile everyday
• make a list of things you like to do
• make a list of places you like to visit
• make a list of crazy things that you like to do (no violence)
• make a list of friends you like to talk with
• make a list of things that you think could make you happy
• make a list of hobbies, skills, interests, knowledge, experiences, abilities, personal qualities you have.
• involve yourself in some charity work
• join some extra course (academic or non-academic)
• do some creative work like poetry, writing, reading, singing, dancing, composing, playing instruments. Keep yourself busy.
• If you have any hobbies do not let go of it. Remember that hobbies always exist in your life but it could be completely different from your career and current job. 

There are many things and list goes on and on. Playing your favourite game or meditation or sleeping soundly or anything have the possibility of keeping you happy. Analyse all these lists and come up with a simple conclusion which makes you happy. 

You being happy inside out is what is going to make changes in families, friendships, relationships, societies, etc. I believe that one happy person can make other people happy as well. Happiness is for sharing. Who knows there might be some people around you silently watching you; who are just content to see that you are happy. Life is very short not to be happy and not try to be happy. We must always seek for happiness within ourselves and the ability that we have to make others happy. 

Here is my acronym for H.A.P.P.Y. :

H- Happiness

A- Always

P- Perceives

P- Person's

Y- Yearnings

Lets all be happy and spread happiness. 

limshaku

Flashback to past

Sorry this post became longer than I expected!!!!!!!!!!!


As we grow older, the only thing remains I guess are the memories of past. We become more experienced in certain things and more arrogant in most of the things. I find mostly elderly people are more stubborn to their decision. So far I have learnt many things in life but I still think I need to learn more. I never stop learning as I said before in one of my post. I have got many photographs of those moments, those beautiful experiences and adventures. But the ones which I don't have photographs are the ones which are most memorable for me. 


Getting back to the topic here, suddenly today I remembered few people I left on my long journey of life. My moments with them are very short but I always remember them (not sure whether few of them still recognise me or not). Whenever I think of them, my heart beats differently and I feel like I'm back to that very moment again. Here are the people I remember most even I have only spent short span of time with them. It's some unknown force which binds me to them, may be the time I spent with them were just unforgettable.


1. When I was in 9th standard, I accompanied my mom to go to Itahari (Eastern Nepal). We had some visits to make and dealings to close.  The travel was a bit scary along the River Trishuli (where most people die from accident,i.e. place like Krishna Vir). Everytime the driver pressed hard on break I would wake up from my sleep. Tensed moment. Hahaha I also watched hindi movie 'Raja Hindustani'. On our way, I saw the River Sapta Koshi (combination of 7 rivers). My heart stopped for a minute. I surrendered myself to River Koshi's vastness. The immense force of water, the deep green water,,ahhhh amazing. I was there before but I was very small. We stayed at our relatives house. I've always heard their name but never actually saw them. There was one sister, such a beautiful girl. She was just a year older than me and we soon get along with each other. She had different taste in food, different way of cooking, different way of keeping me amused. We even shared some funny jokes and went to walk together. She made my stay there bit interesting. They made me drink fresh cow milk, pure one; just taken from cow. After few hours I was in toilet, not to mention why. The only thing I don't like about there is the taste of water. Me and her bonded quite well, she took me for shopping and showed me her hangout places. Soon there was time we had to get back to Kathmandu, she helped me comb my hair, even cooked me nice meal. I was already feeling strange. Me and my mom said our farewell and were walking along the road. She was walking behind us, I kept looking back for no reason. I still saw her standing there and waving at us everytime I looked back. At that very moment I felt like running back to her and hug her. She was standing right there until we changed to the other route. I still remember her and that moment. We haven't met since then but I have kept these memories in my heart. There are no photographs to prove our meetings. For your information, on the way back too Kathmandu there was reports of earthquake while we were on bus. haha

Lesson I learnt: Since that moment, while departing with somebody I love, I never look back no matter what cause if I do so, I feel like I might lose them. (just the instinct)


2. We always had visitors in our house throughout the whole year, a. we lived in Capital and everybody from village would passby our place before they leave country or after they return; b. most relative would come to find something in the Capital and they lived in our place temporarily ( atleast a year hehe). I always liked it that we had visitor in our house. But this time the visitor was in our neighbour's house; our far relative. She was one month younger than me. She has lived most of her life in Dhankuta (Eastern Nepal). Again we soon were getting along with each other quite well. She would tell me all those amazing stories of her place, friends, college life. I would listen to her for hours and hours. I took her to some of my favourite spots, my hideaways, my roaming places in my hometown. My friends (Male) were asking her name. hahaha She was one of a beauti, tall (very unusual in my race LIMBU), long hair, and quite a personality. While she mentioned all those things about her hometown I was creating my own version of that place in my mind. I definately will go there someday. Again here comes bitter truth, she had to go back to where she belong and her mom came to pick her up. We departed with smiles and promises to keep in touch. She even sent me greeting cards few times. But now its been many many years we are not in contact, simply because there is no connection and I don't have her contact details. Soon after she left I heard she got married (she was only 18 or 19).


Lesson I learnt: People meet and depart is a way of life but after we depart the likelihood of meeting again is decided only by destiny. So sad I still remember her and her charming character.


3. This friend of mine is a sweet friend. She had short hair, fair skin, good heart and good sense of humour. We are still in touch through all these modern means of social networking sites. She would tell me all those stories about her hometown Dhangadi, again I was imagining my own version. The places she visited, people she met, incidents she faced and all. I could just listen to her for hours and hours. She told me how she had suffered from health problem while she was sitting exam for her 10+2; went into exam hall with the saline water attached to her wrist. She was a good table tennis player, took me to watch national level game. As well as being modern girl, she had the quality of a good homely girl. Cooking, cleaning, washing was nothing for her. She would sing and dance without hesitation, crack a joke without stuttering, laugh without any obligations. After I knew her for sometime I knew, people who are most smiling have the most painful things inside them. I saw her crying infront of me for some reason. I learnt many many things from her. She was the first girl who did threading of my eyebrows, gosh that hurt. We also had flings in our accountancy class. ahahhaha not to mention the details. There we met the great great grandson of Adikavi BhanuBhakta Acharya. She also introduced me to this brother who was training to be an actor; he is a famous actor now in Nepalese Cinema World. There are many words to mention her but if I start it it'll be a whole book. She's in Johannesburg at the moment with her hubby and I really wish her to visit UK soon.


Lesson I learnt: No matter what life treats you, you should always be ready to accept and challenge it with a smile in your face. One day definately you'll succeed. 


There are many more people in my list but can't mention all of them here. Hope you're not bored to finish this long post. Forgive me if I reminded you of your painful departure with someone, somewhere.


Morale of this blog I suppose is, cherish the person, the moment, the experience at the very moment before you depart from it. I was blissful to be able to share those unforgettable moments with them to recall it now. Lets just say the beautiful reminiscence of friendship and togetherness.

Thank you all. :) :D